Marriage is a social, religious,spiritual, or legal union of individuals(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage)
It would not be wrong to say also that it is compulsory institution for men and women alike. Though it surely does have different connotation for the different sexes. Who knows for what joy was this institution made, and why? Some feminists state so that property could be passed on to the person of the same lineage? And this of course is connected to having one husband and so on.
How is it that no one has thought about the impact it has on individuals. The kind of pressure one goes through if one is not married? Women are conditioned to think that it is what their existence is for “so fall in love with some1 whom u can marry”. Otherwise what’s the point? Men are to earn because they are the bread winners!!
Why the hell!!!
Why have we made it so central to our lives.. Why can’t humans “just let it be”. I mean shouldn’t it be a choice. But the society does not permit it. If you are not married, its sure shot sign of u being “defected in some way or the other”. And we accept what others tell us. If tomorrow a neighbor comes and passes a comment, it almost becomes a life and death issue. It is US who give the credibility to ones who speak.
I have come across people who say that marriage is important so that you have someone to fall back on when ur old? So doe sit mean that if the NGOs/Govt open old age homes, marriages would stop? Some call it legalised sex. Which again makes me wonder that of prostitution is legalized what would it be like?
Some say for companionship. Then what are friends for? Some say to be with the one whom we love. So, that can be done anyway.
Somehow the bottom lines is that we all want to get married … for reasons unknown.. ..and we want others to do the same for reasons unknown…. Brody we live for reasons unknown
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Perhaps it was made just to legalize the procreation process. and just to providing a master to so called "weaker sex" protect the by from the "hunters"
To create offsprings who are like us so that the species does not extinct. Man being socially most advanced creature created this phenomenon in order to "control" the process.
“so fall in love with some1 whom u can marry”.
In many cases its "to marry sum1 whom you will have to Love" or pretend to 'tleast!
About the social pressures, it just is a norm.. In every culture it is a norm.. whatever has been happenning through generations is never questioned.. any any attack on customs is countered by foul-mouthing.. Thats exactly society exists for.. People care what you do more than what they do.. thats people. it is of course for individual whether he/she wants to accept or reject the customs and live life the way he /she wants..
There are many individuals who have been successful in their lives without getting married. Look at Atal bihari Vajpayee, Asha Parekh or Lata Mangeshkar.. people may talk but it hardly matters to 'em. Life goes on.
There are two kinds of people who fall in unmarried category
1) One's who failed to find a companion.
2) One who didn't need any!!
In all species.. there are ways to find a companion.. the sparrow ends up choosing a male who can make a better nest. Its a race to "win" the opposite sex by virtue of own qualities.
Man is a social creature. Marriage , perhaps gurantees a companion for life..(of course there are some exceptions)
Friends, however close they may be, cannot provide cent percent of their time for another.
People marry for different reasons. be it social, parental pressure.. longing for companionship.. or anything else.. there always is some reason known to self... sometimes even sub-conciously. but there is always a reason.
Yes, May be the reasons known are just to "self". Its just too a private issue to be dealt with. But with the marriages breaking down on different grounds, we still have reasons to carry on with this institution... it intriguing..
Thanx for your comment sanat.. it ws interesting..
I belive the reasons for breaking down marriage can be many.. it all depends on the individuals involved. The common thread can be found that people are unable to bear the pressure.. be it social, personal, or of relations, work life balance etc.
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